Uninvited feeling

When you are lonely, what do you feel? 

1. Being alone and cold? 

2. Sad?

3. Want somebody to accompany? 

4. Admire others who have their own company?

(p/s: The list could be different depends on how you define loneliness)

Now let me ask you, please read the question patiently and answer it truthfully...

When you feel lonely, which specific feeling you noticed on yourself according to the list above? One, two, three, or all of the above?

What I want you to notice is that, most of the time, you don't have all of the elements of loneliness happened on you at the same time. Let me explain my crude assumption:

Scenario: You are alone at your room tonight. All of your friends are out to town partying. You are looking at the Facebook Wall waiting for the notification button to light up.

You saw your friends upload their pictures. Couple pics, activities pics, those pics made you felt... like you are not like them. You did not have the same experience as they do. You start to think that you are single. So in a Saturday night like this, you have nobody to date.

You suddenly felt... empty. Then you go into your mind. Try to define this feeling. What is the name of this feeling?

The closest answer your brain gave you is:

LONELY

You agreed with your brain. You then tell yourself, you are lonely. Then naturally, you recall the feeling of loneliness. What do you always feel when you are lonely? Your mind tells you, you will feel: "alone and cold, sad because nobody is around to share the moment with you, want somebody to accompany you now, and admire your friends who are having fun out in town".

Naturally, you start to recall those feelings. You start to notice that you are still alone in the room, with nobody around you to talk to you. You start to scroll the Facebook wall, trying to find someone to talk to you or comment on your status update. You could even find your phone, open the phone book, and find someone to message to him/her. You feel sad, because nobody responds to you. The time seems so long, and you hunger for the notification button to light up. You may open a new tab, but you don't know which website you should visit. You feel restless. You feel wanting a partner very much. You think you are desperate, but you do not want to be desperate. You try to act cool, but the void (emptiness) in your heart is beginning to grow wider and wider and wider.

Now stop.

And look back to the above paragraph. Ask yourself.

What did you feel before you start to "feel" lonely? Do you think after you "feel" lonely, you start to feel worse?

This is what I realized tonight. If you understand what I am conveying, then you will feel a sudden chill in your bones.

We are actually making ourselves feel more than what we felt, 

when we define our current feeling with a term.

I can elaborate much more, but I'll let you do the job for now. I'll allow you to learn about yourself, by yourself, for yourself.

Good night.