Myopia

I read a story about a girl who was disappointed by a guy again and again. But the girl still accepts him even though she was hurt.

I don't think this genre or plot is any fresher for all of us. We could have heard or known some of our friends have this kind of experience before. In fact, most people would blame the girl for being stupid or the guy for being a liar. But what I was interested in is what was the girl thinking when she accepts him again even though she had already "determined" to cease any further relationship with the guy.

Often time, the story happens in this typical chronology:

1. Girl and guy together.

2. Guy betrayed girl by having relationship with third party (including intra gender or no gender relationship)

3. Girl decided to break up and leave guy.

4. First few days, guy begged girl hard hard (typical Malaysian English, soli.) Girl rejects.

5. Later on (probably along few weeks time) Guy continue begging to see girl, said it was just meeting, nothing else. Girl thinks since only meet and want to stop the guy from continuing the harrassment, so the girl meets up with guy.

6. Of course you guessed it, guy begged even harder (infinite x apology = infinopology).

7. Girl heart meltdown (i think because nuclear silo overheat). Accepts guy amidst f&f objections.

8. Guy betrays girl again. Continue from Step 2.

What I was thinking is on step 7. I was guessing one of the possible reasons for the "meltdown" (Don't worry folks, it happens all the time. We're still alive , TG) is that the girl thinks she have met the worst last time and it cannot be worst than that. Maybe the first time, she thinks, okay, i think it's the worst time and Thank God it's over. Second time? Oh, no, this is worse than last time, but I've been through it and I think he has already turned over a new leaf. Third time? Don't worry, I've lived through it the last two times and don't people always say, bad things won't happen thrice? The fourth time and so on? I think I am weak and I would just accept my fate being thrashed by this guy...

Seriously? Do you htink the guy will change just like that? He hasn't change because there isn't any SIGNIFICANT impact on him that he has to deal with. All he felt during the breakup was probably "okay, I'll try to persuade this bitch. Bitch has soft heart. It'll melt over time." And probably the girl was so naive that she believes THE GUY MUST REPAY HER FOR WHAT HE HAS DONE TO HER!

She could've bought the idea that when people did something wrong, they'll apologize and WILL reward you for the trouble. And she was probably right... for the first few days when the guy flooded her with gifts and sweet promises... and then that's all...

That's all! Stop reading.

Lol.

Yeah, funny how people's internal logic convince them to do things they normally won't do. No matter how much others would reprimand us, when our logic says so, we tend to believe so. One of the ways to realize how our internal logic fools us is by countering our own logic with opposite reasoning. Like, what if it happens the other way round? What could we do differently? Then you start to compare both reasons and choose the best for yourself. Remember, when there are more choices available, we will have more breathing room and therefore we can reduce the risk of myopia.

That's all (Really, the End!)

Lol. See you next time! Take care.