Saying sorry

"I'm sorry" is the hardest thing to say, because some don't know what to say, some don't know how to say, some don't know why they have to say it, and most people don't know when should they say it.

What?

Not everyone realized that they're wrong in some things they said or did. That's why not everyone realized what happened to the other parites whom are disappointed with their mistakes. There's always damage done in any mistake, even the so-called Honest Mistake (which I don't know what it means apart from "I know it hurts but I still do it to you"). When a person is shrouded in confusion whether it WAS their action that led to the disappointment or otherwise, the guessig game is one of the last things you'd ever wish to experience. And when realized that they are wrong, sometimes people just felt so helpless to apologize. They don't know what they should say. The awkward moment of wanting to say something but just doesn't know which word to utter is annoyingly painful, especially when both parties wanted to return to their closeness but frustrated over the lack of way to get there.

How?Some people want to apologize, they know what they should say, but they just don't quite understand how they should say it to show that they are sincerely apologizing. Like you broke your beloved teachers' lovely daughters' favourite pen, but the beloved teachers' lovely daughter is also on your top-10 most hated peer/enemy/bully of all time list. You wanted to tell your favourite teacher that it is really an accident, but you guess she will doubt you because your feud with the girl is well known over the entire school! You're in a dilemma of how you should show your deepest regret to convince the teacher that it WAS an accident and you're terribly sorry for it. You thought of making a sandwich as a gift to the girl, but you couldn't do it without thinking of adding some "spices" into the sandwich because you hated that girl so much! We've come to this kind of situation in our lives, unfortunately most people succumbed to not able to apologize well and lost a valuable relationship.

Why?

A good apology always show that we understand what we did and we regret for the consequences. People are more willing to accept an apology if the doer realized his/her mistakes AND the genuine intention to amend the damage done. I'm going to say something bias: Ladies, compared to men (or anything in between or apart of), are more willing to accept an apology when the person shows that he/she is aware of his/her fault and felt sorry for it, as well as expressing sincere willingness to fix it. We are human because we have emotion, and when we show empathy for each other, that makes our bond stronger. Sometimes a mistake is also an opportunity to pull two hearts together, because of the readiness and earnestness to commit in the relationship.

When?

The final stage is to know when to apologize. Since you're reading until here, then you could realize that it's not just about a sorry, but there are many things we do, if we learn the "What, How, Why, and When" chronologically, we will be a better person. Just like saying "I love you", apologizing requires good timing. You don't try to say sorry when the person is obviously rejecting all chances of communication (eg. poo poo, blasting music with earphone, etc). You only apologize when the person is ready to listen. It's the best time because he/she/it (Yes, your pet loves your sorry too) is willing to tolerate and rejuvenate the relationship. Good timing let your effort blossom with fruitful result. So, choose your chance wisely and apologize sincerely.

Well, that's all for now. I hope we will learn to apologize (Me too, I'm imperfect and learning).People who rejects to apologize is like a lonely hawk above the mountain. Forever alone, forever engulf in the empty pride. You and I, we are not like that. We values humility, simply because it allows us to relate and connect to people around us.

Good luck in your voyage in life.